You've been through a lot. But we worry about you. Periodically checking in helps. Thank you for doing this.
If possible (and if you feel up to it) would you take a look at a new poster: cpfc05.
I think you could help each other see through another lens.
Cpfc05 could gain insight into how the left-behind spouse felt when faced with betrayal. And you could gain insight into what made him do what he did.
Because you are both men you might be more open to a frank discussion because you will be less interested in dissecting the conversation for strategies to use on your spouses.
On another note: Please take care of yourself.
No matter how hopeless you feel...life is never hopeless. And your health should always be a priority. When things get overwhelming...I want you to take a deep breath and set a long-term obtainable goal that reminds you that life is wonderful.
For example, on March 7, 2035, you plan to take your grandchild out for ice cream. Just the two of you and no one else. And your grandchild will turn to you and say, "I love you grandpa. No one else gets me like you get me."
