I am pretty sure that your H isn't going through MLC.
Hi Wonka, Is that because of his age (he does seem too young) or because he doesn't fit the profile?
We've had some young MLCers. I was what some people may consider a "young MLCer" as I started my own MLC when I was 32.
To me, a true MLCer generally exhibits those behaviors/tendencies:
-Prolonged covert depression (some overt) -Memory is shot/vacant eyes -Feeling an enormous amount of pressure -Feeling trapped -Insatiable need to "run away" (i.e., moving out or even moving many miles away) -Having Jekyll/Hyde swings (between nice and monstering) -Thinks that the world is the problem...not the MLCer -Absolutely not interested in "working" on the M because they're not the ones with a 'problem'
From what I read in your threads, I do not see H exhibiting any of those MLC "symptoms" to date.
He is just a WAS who is frustrated and probably feeling out of his depth in understanding what entails a real marriage is all about...not the Disney version. I sense he is a bit slow in coming to the realization that M is hard work and one has to really work at it like a beautiful rose one tends to on a regular basis.
