Maybe silence is better. Seriously, it might be. Yet I'd feel the need to deny something in a very "NON engaging" clear way. And then it would become my mantra.
Otherwise there is the possibility she'll say "he didn't even bother denying it".
Originally Posted By: RysinMn
Yeah, W seems to really love drama right now. She just sent me a lengthy email about our encounter lastnight. She expressed that she was trying to be quiet, and she said she would park in the street to avoid waking me up.
Then she transitions right into telling me she knows I have had a dinner and watched a movie with OM's ex. And that all the second hand info I am receiving needs to stop. she then went into a speech about me talking to family and Friends and calling her names like, callous, selfish, and and disrespectful. And she feels like it is destructive to our situation. And she feels like she doesn't do it to me. I almost responded but I didnt. The only answer I gave her was the street parking is best thank you.
Do you think I answered that correctly, I wanted to address the statement about me talking and calling her names to other people but I didnt. I do not believe those are name calling or talking crap. It is a observation of the situation and how it is being handled. Well that is from my side of things.
Can I assume that nothing she said about you, is true?
Or parts of it? Whatever is false, including if it is all of it, I'd say that.
"W, for the record, none of what you just said is true or fair. I won't dignify it more than that. And yes, parking on the street would help. Thanks."
Do NOT engage beyond that.
If she tries to drag you with more crap or spew or even specifics,
you repeat the above. And then you hang up or leave the room or shut the door.
It's about as clear, firm & CALM as it gets. And that is powerful.
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