So this has not started out the way it should. Two nights straight W has come home at 11 pm and after 12am lastnight each time waking me up when u have to be up at 330 am for my school. So finally lastnight night after she pulled in I went down and sat on the stairs. When she tried to sneak in the front door I was sitting there. I said, "W I need you to know this is not a hotel where you came and go when you want, she said I can do what ever I want. My reply was "if you think you can do whatever you want then I don't think this situation is going to work this is still my house." Why didn't you just tell her you needed your sleep & she woke you up? What was the rest of all this^^ about anyhow?
I mean, don't get me wrong, I don't like it.
But I'm left with the feeling that she thinks this is about YOU stomping your feet to control her and telling her it's "your house!!!" and all that,
but why not say it's about her waking you up?! Be clear with her. And specific.
she states "it's our house and if it wasnt for me you wouldn't have it either. I said you gave up the house when you left, and she actually turned to me and said I left not her. I realized it was going no where fast
If you had kept to the fact that she woke you up (and where is "the friend"???) you would not have had to engage in all the rest.
so I just said you nred to try and think about the other people you are affecting by your actions. THAT^^ is Way too vague (judgmental to her as well) for a WAW...sorry
And went to bed. I was so angry only got 3.5 hours of sleep and that's not good for my master fitness course where in exhausted daily.
So how do I approach this thing, You tell her THAT^^^.
cause it is obvious she is not staying at my house to spend time with our friend. She is actually using it becuase she is out all night with OM doing acrobatics. Which makes zero sense why she doesn't stay with him. You say "it's obvious...for OM" time but it's NOT obvious to me. Why not stay at his place?
I'm confused.
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