Old dog seeks new trick 10

[Maybell]

I do fear for my marriage greatly though.

Fairly early in my time here I mocked the idea that my STBX didn't love me. I *knew* that he did and that our marriage was meant to endure.

Cadet stepped in and said one thing:

Your husband doesn't love you.

That hurt like he!!. But I needed to hear it.

Old Dog, I'm sorry. Your marriage is over.

Do you really think she could say, "Oh, man, I was so wrong. Let's fix this," and that you'd be able to? Honestly? What do you think it'd be like if she DID start to come around? Imagine it for a minute.

Now, conduct yourself like you BELIEVE her mantra that it's over. DO THAT. Even without regard to what that does for your own well-being, it does show her that you respect her opinion and that you aren't going to go wagging behind her like a (pardon me) dog who hopes he won't be kicked again.

In order to have the hope of a chance to build a new fresh marriage you are going to have show her that you believe her and let her walk away. Do what you need to do to be healthy given that the circumstances ARE WHAT THEY ARE.

This is NO FUN AT ALL. It is unfair and it is wrong. YES, you deserve better. But things are what they are. Think about your situation as though you were hearing about it from a friend and consider what you would advise him to do. Then man up and go do it.

Women respect strength, OD.