Old dog seeks new trick 10

[Old Dog]

I can't say don't see him as she'll just repeat her it's over mantras. As far as she is concerned she has ended it, has moved on and started another R, and now it's up to me to get over it.

Umm.... would the state say "it's over" ????

No, the state wouldn't, but it's only a piece of paper - like the marriage certificate itself if you choose to see it that way.

She's married. She can parse it however she wants but there it is. Until she ACTUALLY ends the marriage, it's not over.

SO.

Do you like how she's treating you?

I don't think I need answer that :-)

What are you able to change?

Only me for sure, but I have my doubts about that too.

I totally disagree with her that she's keeping the boys' best interests at heart. Is this what she'd like for them to endure as adults? Is this what you'd want for them?

Me too. She wants me to be a role model for the boys by being adult about this, but what kind of role model is she?

What can YOU do to mitigate the way she's treating you? How can you protect yourself from all this?

Set boundaries, but I have difficulty wondering what boundaries to set that will help me and I can enforce.