"Hold the Remote" was a metaphor for the fact that she's controlling this entire process. It was more clear in my original post.
I think there's something to be said for the fact that our Ws expect us to "fizzle out". Could it be a pattern of past inconsistency with the things we are interested in at any given time? Thats an issue for me...I get interests that I "burn" on for a period of time, then drop. This type of behavior has worked great at work and in sports. But making "rekindling" a project might mean I'm not interested in a year. W probably thinks that too. The funny thing about W is that she changes extremely slow. I bet that a consistent "Friday night" for a couple of years would actually work.
Maybe I just don't understand women. Let's say we had a full-time masseuse living in the house...I would get a massage every day...it's pleasurable, relaxing and healthy. Why turn down something pleasurable...are orgasms not pleasurable? I just can't comprehend this. The only thing that would make me reject a massage is if the masseuse had something completely repulsive about them. I'm absolutely positive that there's nothing repulsive about me. So what's the deal? I just can't understand a person's denial of pleasure.
I really bet that consistency over a very long period is key. W runs everything in a businesslike, precise manner, and is never late, etc. Unfortunately, I've let her wedge her daily activities into our time together to the point that I get about 5 minutes of a tired, burned out carcass of a woman at the very end of the day. Nice that she waits till the last minute. Maybe the next suggestion is that she wake, up, f* my brains out, then start her busy day. But oh, that's right...she said she hates to do in the morning because she feels "unclean" and that her shower and cleanliness then makes her want to start the day. I hope she feels that invigorated when she's a single mom.
