I agree with what V is saying OD - I think boundaries should be uppermost in your mind. I appreciate S15's op is coming up. But your W needs to understand what is and isn't okay for you here. You seem very hesitant to assert yourself with W, but the way I see it is the worst has already happened here - there's nothing to be afraid of right now.

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus