Bklynnmom, My H constantly blames me for S not wanting to do things or spend time with him. It has always been about my parenting, in fact he has said it's one of the reasons he feels the way he does. Meanwhile, I am raising our son while working full time. S gets awesome grades, teachers and parents rave about how well behaved he is, he has lots of friends and he is loving and caring. Do I ever get a thank you? Never. Just criticism.
I think they do this because they are not able to look at themselves yet. Because then they would realize that they are a part of the issue. They can't have that! So it's blame, blame, blame. You sound like a great mother, hang in there and try not to take his comments to heart. He is justifying his behavior to himself because he is unhappy.
I am sorry to hear about his job far away.
Me 48 H 46 S 11 M 2004 BD 8/13 H moved out 2/15 -live in the present, enjoy the beauty around and within you, explore your new future-
