Much as I would like to take the credit for this, well a little the ADD helps. MCS, you underestimate your own role, primarily the honesty, the intention that MCS has to change and accept challenges that will improve MCS. This is very key to you and your ability to see and understand. So I am glad that the way I write is smoothing your way forward.
MCS is ready to change and grow, to hop to the next Lilly pad. Frogs change into princes you know!
It is that with which we struggle that encourages growth.
There are other aspects too, which I know you will understand. MCS, you have a spiritual background which is both a positive and a negative impediment to growth. positive because there is an extra strength an ability to connect, to pray and to interpret. Negative in a way that is role constraining, those views can if we let them allow dogma to define our roles as W and H and as mum and dad.
So if I said that it is the higher power with whom both MCS and V are connected that communicates, could you accept that? Can you also accept that in this way my connections to my higher power are strengthened too? This higher power is older than both our souls and ancient behind us and eternal in front of us. In this way DB connects without space and judgement. We are part of higher power and these tenets are free to us if we open our minds and hearts.
MCS you are truly growing and changing for you and your beautiful children that you write about so joyously.
Suppose, just suppose that W parenting was ok, different, off beat, unusual, but that there was benefit to it that MCS could not see? That wearing open toed shoes with woollen mittens was expression? That eating chocolate ice cream for a day with tomato sauce was experience. That W loves her children and that unusual unkempt hair is an 'in look', that really none of that matters at all. Just suppose? Suppose the universe was smiling on it. As long as no physical harm arises, that it is ok, unconventional, wacky, quirky motherhood, W own style brand and OK. I would have loved that kind of mother, I always wanted to be Gerrald Durrells sister from My Family and Other Animals, mad as a 'box of frogs'.
Full circle MCS, enjoy being in the box of frogs. It can be ok if you let it and smile instead.
V
Last edited by Vanilla; 03/07/1504:45 PM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
