Continuing my post, I wanted to respond to you guys about this valading her in this particular incident. This may rock some others here who are big on validation, but I think some of the LBH'S overdo when the WW is being a b'tch and blaming the H for her problems.

It's not that I don't believe in validation, but you've got to know when it is appropriate and when it's not. Otherwise, you come across as being a sniffling doormat whimp who is kissing up. That is one of the worst things to do when you have a wayward wife.

Let me give you an example of the difference. If she had texted or called about how hard the interview went and she wasn't feeling confident about the results, then he could validate her concerns. But the minute she lashes out at him to put all the blame on him......that is when he needed to call her out and then shut it down.

You guys have got to get this part right.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!