"Don't try to paint me out to be the bad guy here. I told you yesterday and again this morning that I had a Skype call for work that was going to take 2 to 3 hours. I was going to over my final data that I spent the last week preparing. I understand things come up, I tried to be as accommodating as possible. But there was nothing I could do. I would have gladly rearranged my schedule to fit yours and I did for the morning to make sure you could go to said interviews and what not. It [censored] that it got canceled this morning and you rescheduled it for later. But it's not my fault, I stuck to the plan."
This was perfect!
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So I did what I shouldn't have done and called her
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This part you should not have done. You should have drop the conversation after you called her out in that text. You just told her you were not going to fight with her, and then you turn right around and call her? What were your expectations when you called?
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You are mad at the situation and blaming me for it. This is not my fault. You knew I had to work, I don't understand why you won't accept that."
Exactly! However, you are continuing to do what you told her you wouldn't........which is to fight about it.
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I am fuming right now. I mean, what am I supposed to do? My kids have been with me since Weds, it's her weekend, yet she is mad that I didn't drop everything to accommodate her
You were not wrong to do what you did, okay? But you are fuming so she has won this round. Every time she blames you for something going wrong in her life .......and you react to it? You lose the victory. You know the truth, and that is what guides this, not her WW bitterness.
This is a warning: All WW's blame the LBH for every bump in the road, before and after the bomb. Get use to it and stop reacting like she is right. Let her stew in her own mess. She has to do this before she can find her way through it. If you allow her blaming to affect you, then you will be defeated before you get started,
The next time she sends a sarcastic, rude, bitter, blaming text.........what do you do?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
