Originally Posted By: Zelda09
I wonder - if seriously exploring alternate lives, new opportunities - if that doesn't give us a stronger look at our sitch, in a good way. It could be the important thing that says to you that these are all choices and you are in control. Knowing there are choices, hope and you'll be ok is a huge fount of strength, no? The kind of anti-desperate strength that attracts anyone into your life.


I think it definitely makes sense that it would. I have tried in the past to think through alternate lives but up until now I have looked at it and thought "eh it would be OK but not as good as my old life" - and then got upset. It wasn't until yesterday that I saw a possibility of a better, happier new life. (But then it's made me think - if I could have a better, happier life why not just do that and walk away from H?)


Me 28 / H 28
M 1 / T 2.5
BOMB 12-3-14 "I don't feel like myself any more"
Still living together, separate rooms.