Old dog seeks new trick 10

[Sotto]

Hi OD - just checking in, and glad to see you have had so many messages of support. You are facing the worst right now, and do you know what? You'll be okay. For me today is an antiversary of discovering my H's inappropriate emails to OW. It was really hard to read all his compliments to her, and him saying to her 'I can't stop thinking about you' late at night - ugh.

The thing I would say is I had four months between discovering those emails (and H purportedly breaking things off) when I was so worried he may be having an A. When he admitted a PA, my reaction was - well, the worst has happened - and I'm okay actually. We worry so much about it, it's a relief in a way when it actually happens!

I think if you plan to continue with in-house S, I would take note of Vs advice on boundaries and not be afraid to set them with your W. She is fully wayward ATM. Do so calmly and assertively and be very specific. Post things first here if you're unsure.

We're all here for you OD, and you will get through this intact - truly you will ((()))