Seperated -she is with someone, I'm desperate (3)

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Hi Zues. I was able to track down that thread and i understand what you mean about letting her, OM, and friends fall to the background. I do admit my hoping for her may be slowing down my personal growth. I also admit that what she has done is not acceptable and i deserve better. I don't condone her actions and as much as I want a life with her, she would have to ftruly commit to a new R which would mean changing quite a few things on her side of the fence as well. Do I condone it,no. Do I think an affair is normal or divorce us normal, no. Where I struggle is i still truly love her and have an open heart to her. But I do need to move forward as if she is gone. If i am pleasantly surprised some day that would be great but I cannot count on it and know it will only slow down my healing.