Old dog seeks new trick 10

[gan]

(((not so Old Dog)))

Just catching up - so sorry to read about the events of the past couple of days. That must have been extremely difficult to read.

As odd as it may seem, you sound like you are in a "good" place. Reflective of things you could have done differently (and thus open to improving you), able to see that you are not the only one who made mistakes in the marriage, even holding on to your sense of humour in spite of all of this...I think this is all very healthy. Sounds to me like the dam has broken. I know for me things started getting better (for me, not the M necessarily) when this all happened.

Old Dog, I think you are finally in a place where you can act more decisively (even if that just means working on you). Maybe things are blurry right now, but clarity will come and you are not sounding as powerless now. That's the silver lining.