Getting back to me

[mustardseed]

Mustard

This is confidential to Mustard and you do not have to disclose to H if you do not want to. It is personal. Hold your counsel.



As for creepy choir drawers, if it were me then I would say STOP and tell him there will be consequences if he does not. You sense this guy is a predator, trust your instinct. If it smells to you like a rotten fish then it most probably is.

You went GAL Msd, please much more, give yourself a break, get some space with your sitch. Hot housing is emotionally draining.

V

I didn't get to address this part of your post before because I had to go to work. Keeping things to myself is something I have a hard time with. I have never been good at holding things in or keeping secrets, part of why he infuriates me so much because he never shows his cards. But you are right. I don't have to explain my motives to him. I probably need to learn to be a little bit more like him in that way.

As for Choir Guy. I think I really do need to address it. Singing in the choir was one of the things that I really love doing just for me, and I hate that it is so uncomfortable right now.

I have been doing more GAL things. I went away during my week off, and we sort of took turns with the kids, although I ended up getting more time with them because of some cold weather plumbing and electrical issues, so we thought it was best to not have the kids in the house until it was fixed. And last weekend I spent the night (with the kids) at a friends new home which was a lot of fun. This weekend the kids and I are going away again. These things aren't much different than before BD. I traveled a lot with my kids and my family. He used to go but gradually pulled himself out of these trips. I think too much extended family got to him. But I enjoy traveling and we never really could afford it on our own. I also really value extended family--he used to also. Now he pretty much shut himself off from everyone except his work buddies--mostly because they are local, I'm guessing.