I am not sure, I am still very new to this whole DB thing. I think I would have acknowledged her, validated her issue and then moved on and ignored her.
Not bad. I'm no vet, but the DB way is never to engage in such arguments like you did, beyond validating. If you don't know it already, there's no way to win. You both have reasons to be upset and it does not need to be resolved. Resist the urge, next time. The phone call was the worst because of its high volatility. In my opinion, this restrained approach applies much beyond the context of our sitches, but let's keep it at this for now.
DB is a lot about controlling your emotions. Learn to catch yourself when you want to express your righteous anger. Yeah yeah, you're 100% right and she's completely wrong. So what? Do you want to be right or to be happy? Let it slip, be the bigger person, keep your eyes on the ball. By the way, it's very likely that she'll realize she's wrong but not tell you. Then you'll impress her much more than if you've dumped your anger on her.
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"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
