Well, the talking took too long and by the time we were done, she was wiped out.
Her point about "not being irritating" has lots of meanings. Think of someone you know who might be "know-it-all" or generally annoying to talk to. You typically want to avoid bringing any subject up with them. I avoid talking to my mother-in-law because the conversation always seems to turn into something about her.
W will sometimes say something about something that indicates to me that she's not completely clear (or correct) in her understanding. I have the tendency to correct her. This is probably the #1 annoying thing I do to her so a couple months ago, I asked her give me a visual clue...a hand signal that indicates I'm being a pecker. This is working great.
Now did last night's talk irritate her? A little bit because she wasn't expecting it. Does she need to be a little more understanding of my need to communicate with her? Probably, but I also need to make sure that when I'm angry and feeling the need to communicate, that I write down the issues and present them quickly and clearly. I probably could have turned the situation into ML had I done that. But the truth was that I was so bothered that her touching me (before the talk) didn't feel good. It was really weird.
This just goes to show that I should chill out. I keep saying that but I'm not doing it. All this reading is making me pessimistic. Maybe it's the fact that she's not approaching it like the LD women by making a big, noisy production of it. But if I just relax, and look at the situation right now...SHE'S WORKING ON IT TOO. I don't blame her for thinking I'm irritating. Afterall, I'm acting all "doom and gloom" when, if I would just lift my head up for a minute, I would see that our world IS dramatically changing for the better. If I would just pull my ass out of this site and the books and pay attention to her, I wouldn't be missing the wonderful, subtle changes that are going on right now.
I must chill. I must chill. I must chill. I must chill. I must chill. I must chill. I must chill. I must chill. I must chill. I must chill. I must chill. I must chill. I must chill. I must chill. I must chill. I must chill. I must chill. I must chill. I must chill. I must chill.