Vanilla Fudged 1+ 10

[Old Dog]

Thanks V.

[Sotto]

V - good idea with the ipad! I love my ipad and have a little keyboard/cover I use with it all the time. Like it way more than my laptop. Hope you have a good time today.

H and I have been in touch today about dividing assets. He's going to suggest a way forward. I'll keep you posted. :-)

[MCS]

V,

You are amazing. I had so much trouble getting W presents from my kids, let alone from myself. Your personal character really shines through in acts like that. Unless H is a bafoon, he has to be noticing the extreme good nature and caring that you project even in the face of all his spew. I'm sure he has times his mind is quiet enough to see that

[Dawn70]

So sorry for your issues. Glad you are here and that you are enjoying your red car. Hang in there, great lady.

[edz]

Classy stuff v

Nothing wrong with the goons...he fell in the water....were going to send a gunboat and the ever present turn the knob on the side....I haven't got a knob on my side

[Vanilla]

MCS, Dawn and Edz

Thank you for your kind words. As an LBS i do what i do, and look at other's sitches and think why would the wayward do what they do?

RDs wife, RPP husband, Little boyfriend and Jans wife. Why? I see good loving parents, spouses and friends. At other times I see faults or failures and think small changes will make all the difference. Occasionally I see narcs or cruel behaviour and shudder for those caught up in it. In all each does what they do.

Who knows and really none of it makes sense, not really, to those of us with sanity, not in an A. But somehow it makes sense to the wayward, the rationale works and justification is there. I wonder about it and move on. H has a mind that I will never understand.

So give the waywards space, let H do what he choses to do. I do what I do because that makes sense to me. I am sure what I do is against Sandi rules, presents etc. So H had a present to make my life more peaceful and his birthday party was my thank you to my staff for year end as well as H birthday.

H liked his card.

V

[Vanilla]

Classy stuff v

Nothing wrong with the goons...he fell in the water....were going to send a gunboat and the ever present turn the knob on the side....I haven't got a knob on my side

Nor on mine but it is a sea goon after all........

V

[Vanilla]

Toots

I am checking yourosts

V

[Ggrass]

I go out and leave you lot alone, and see all the humor that falls out.

So h liked his Present, guess he will look like a prime dill if h miss behaved at the party.

[Mozza]

Vanilla - You were kind to say on my thread that my posts are valuable to you. I am surprised because to me, you are leading the way. You show such grace and calm in the face of such adversity, with a mean H and business challenges. In my case, I have a cordial and distant WAW plus two adorable daughters and yet I manage to be a sobbing mess six months into the sitch.

I don't know that I can say anything of value, except to those who suffer equally under the best of conditions. I sometimes tell myself that I have to be more like Vanilla, that I have to just look at the situation with detachment and resume my personal plans. Worst: the thought that maybe this is all for the best, because WAW was going to do it sooner or later, or because maybe I was tired of her more than I'm ready to admit, provides little, if any, comfort.

Really, I look at your sitch and feel I can't contribute a thing. My strength relate to empathy for WAW who can't bear the sight of their LBS, something that many newcomers don't grasp. This is not your case. Maybe that's my fixer reflex who thinks that the only way to contribute is to provide practical advice. Let's hope that my mere presence here show you that I care a great deal for your situation. Keep inspiring so many of us.