Very, very sorry for what you just found, Old Dog. It reminds me of the tremendous difficulties that people on these boards have to face on a daily basis. This is something we never expect to find when we pronounce our vows, or just when we pack the car for some holidays, or just put the kids to bed after a day out. I remind myself that even though I met all of you in this difficult context, we all had "normal lives" until recently and that all of this is a shock that was impossible to fathom just a few weeks or months ago.
I really hope for you that you'll find the strength to take a little distance from it in the coming days and weeks, after the initial shock. If you can, take strength in the face that most of us men on these boards have gone through a similar discovery and that, over time, the hurt subsides.
If I could, I would also host you tonight, share a glass with you, and let you get it all out.
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"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.