I feel your pain. my husband had been distant for the past 2 years. However, I believe he has been depressed as we were suffereing financially and I did not work. I think he resented me for not helping him succeed in life. In nov 2015, he told me that he wants a divorce, and he does not wont to work on the marriage at all. He wants out and does not want to be married to me anymore. He said he has been thinking about divorce for the past two years! I was in shock. however, he never bothered to communicate with me that he was unhappy. i thought he was depressed because we had suffered financially during this time. I thought he was depressed so I left him alone as he did not want me to connect with him emotionally or physically. We have not had any sexual or intimate contact for 1 year as he is distant emotionally. He wont even let me touch him in any way. I was totally blindsided by this divorce thing. I just wish he would have communicated this to me in the past so we could have fixed our problems. Now he wants nothing to do with the marriage. He said he should have never gotten married! I am so angry with him because of his selfish way. We have three children. I am not sure if there is another women as i do not have any proof but he has tried to connect with women over the internet and claims it was only because he was bored!!! Ya right. I am ready to give up on him because I feel he just cannot commit to our marriage and I cannot force someone to be with me if they dont want to. He is looking for a place now to move out and I am heart broken that after 17 years married and 12 years on and off prior to that, he wants out of the marriage without even trying to salvage what we have. Any thoughts what I should do? What kind of man leaves he marriage if they do not have someone waiting on the side. Or at least thinking about wanting to be with other women.
