Complex No. 6 - The turtle and the rabbit

[Sotto]

The 'saving my marriage actively' is a funny thing. Most of us here want to save our M's and are very active in doing that. However, it's the counter intuitiveness of the process that gets to you. Much of my 'active saving' has been doing LRT and not initiating contact with H - whilst building up my own life here etc..

I think the thing is - the active saving won't actually be seen as such by the WAS - but may well be working just below the surface. Or it may not work at all - but hopefully we'll emerge wiser and happier...