OM being at WW's house does not cancel out how well you handled yourself at dinner.
If you had not seen OM's car, would your hopes be soaring? Probably. Listen, just b/c she liked what she saw in you, didn't mean it was going to immediately stop her from seeing him. It will take a lot more than one positive hour over dinner with you.
At least you saw for yourself what you can do, which is show off your confidence! Plus, she obviously was impressed with your improved good-looking self. That tells me that she could be attracted to you again some day. (Hey, it has to start somewhere, right?)
What do you do now? You get right back up on that horse, cowboy. You just had a ego fall, that's all.
I am amazed when I read posts from guys when their confidence level is high. They feel great about themselves, and as a result do a fantastic job. Then one little thing just burst their ego bubble and down they go. Actually, it works that way for both genders, I believe, when we are experiencing a lot of sensitive issues from the one we love. What could hurt one's ego more than to have your S turn to OP! True, I haven't been in those shoes, but I believe I have learned at least that much, through the pain I read about every day on the board. (I hope that doesn't sound cheesy.)
The closest one to us can pop our ego the easiest, yet when we are complimented from a total stranger.....it gives us a boost. We are funny beings!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
