That was a good post Zew!
I do all the right things and it took me a while to start feeling them too. Once I thought I really do feel them I started believing sth like "now that I got what it takes, I can do this and can take the next steps". I kind of started believing that I have to take action saving my marriage actively. Which probably is stupid bc I should continue what I do and not change plans just because I feel confident again.


Me 32 (German) Wife 28
T 3yrs M 2yrs
Moved to US for W
No kids
BD 6/2014
In house separation
Confirmed EA 1/2015
(ongoing since BD)
OM not ready
Real D talk started 1/27/15