Wife left me three weeks ago!

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ah now I see. It's amazing isn't it how sometimes something so simple to understand seems so hard to implement. I think what I've been doing is minimising contact and then on top of that minimising conversation...therefore I just look distant and uninterested in anything related to her I guess.

So if I've got this right I'm going to go for minimising contact (no unnecessary calls/texts etc) but when I'm with her I'm going to be friendly in a neighbourly way and talk about the weather, the kids, how's work etc etc without referring to our R. I hope I've got that right. That does now seem to make perfect sense to me. I had been wondering, as I wrote just earlier, how we might move things along if I am not really speaking to her when I am with her, even if I wasn't being nasty or unpleasant, just not talkative to her. Now hopefully I see what to do.