Please do not tell your spouses that they are depressed. They will not listen to you. They must figure this out on their own.
This for me is one of the most frustrating aspects of this. I can see so many of the signs of depression in my MLC W, but I can't suggest to her that she go see her doctor. Her mother made the suggestion, mentioned that she sees signs of depression, and W just blew her off. I don't even dare mention the subject with her -- but it's so sad to see her struggling with all of this and pushing me away. I'm the only person in her life who can actually see all of these signs because she masks them very well around others.
The line about a connection between untreated depression and upper respiratory illnesses also struck a cord with me this week -- W has had a pretty severe upper respiratory illness this week that seems to be lingering longer and harder than these things usually do with her.
Me 48, Her 50 (Same-Sex Couple) 3 Children Together: 9.5 years before BD BD: Week of 10/27/14 ExW started EA w OW 9/2014 ExW married OW 12/2015
