MLC W Dates, Part 7

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I see so clearly how my W and children need more of me right now, but the separation prevents this. I am the only who keeps my s13 calmed down. And it is so frustrating to see that the only reason my W hasn't divorced me is that she only wants more money from me. This stinks.

I want to be the voice of compassion here -- I don't agree that this is why. Charlayne in Rejoice Ministries always reminds me not to think about the circumstances, not to think about WHY things happen to keep us together, but just to be thankful. I have often fell into thinking that my husband only doesn't leave us because he can't afford to, but then I just thank god for ensuring that he can't afford to! Your wife may be using this idea in her mind, that the connection is money-based, but her mind is addled! Maybe she needs to pretend it's about the money because she can't admit or face the fact that she wants to stay connected.

Try not to think about your circumstances!

I am struggling so much with my son too. It's so hard. I keep trying to trust God that this journey will have meaning for all of us. I know it has changed me.