Thanks swabby!! Sandi has been GREAT!! What a blessing she and the other vets are to this forum! I have spent the past 6 months second guessing myself. Am I handling this right? Maybe it is me being controlling? Am I doing more of the same? To be honest, detaching like I have been is a little like I used to be. The difference now is I am doing it nicely. I am listening when she speaks. I am acknowledging her. I am not being a jerk(have said some mean things in the past when we fought to get my own way). I am allowing her to make her own mistakes. I am worrying about myself and my kids. I am giving her space. I am moving on with my life. I am doing things that I want to do. But I am also standing up for my values and what I believe. I am not scared of my wife anymore. I used to be afraid she would leave when we fought so I would validate my feelings and drag out our arguments to prove my point. I am now holding on to my N.U.T.S(nonnegotiable, unalterable, terms)!! LOL!!
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Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"
