So, a possible reply to H?

H, thanks for the suggestions. I also hope we can resolve things and move on together. I have seen a solicitor and don't feel I could make such big decisions without advice. Thanks for understanding this, and I'm sure you'll seek support if you feel you need to. She has advised that we only sell the house as part of a full financial settlement, with these steps -

*Full financial disclosure using form E
*Exchanging financial info
*Considering the full financial picture
*Agreeing a fair settlement
*Confirming this in a separation agreement

Like you, I hope to avoid any more hurt and I hope we can work this out together. I don't want a protracted dispute either - L is trained in 'collaborative law' actually. Hopefully we can both agree on a fair way forwards. Look forward to hearing from you H.

Toots

And my big query....is this the time for me to tell him I don't want us to D and that I hope we can be together again?? I haven't said this since last Autumn and have been acting 'as if.'

Last edited by Toots; 03/06/15 03:51 PM.
T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus