That's exactly my W issue too. Once she gets into it, it's great for her. I might change the list to say this instead .....
1. ML once on the weekend, once midweek..and one bonus time that you decide.
What's so difficult is that everyone says "frequency" is therapeutically beneficial. So my frequency which may seem like a big number is partially for me and partially for her LD. I could survive on 1-2 times per week but in the long run I would like to build up to more. So I'm not sure what to do.
One side of me wants to do the Great American Sex Diet which is a 28 day program which basically forces a daily encounter for an entire month with the understanding that we would then move into a more realistic schedule. This is like the South Beach Diet where the beginning is really tough, then it gets more reasonable.
The other side of me thinks we should take our time and try to rekindle the desire back through consistency with a "ramp up" period where we start at once every 10 days, then move up to 7, then 4, then 2. I could propose that to her.
The other way is to simply establish a baseline of 3 times per week. Not sure if this is as good as the others I mentioned. In some ways I think it's like physical fitness and training. ..you build up to it, then another side makes me think that it's not at all like that because it doesn't actually require cell-division to have sex...unless you count the regeneration of your ...never mind.
I would be curious if anyone has approached this with the "immersion method" versus the "build up". Pros, cons, etc.
BTW...I called a sex therapist today. I will probably go myself at first, but there's a good chance that W will want to go when she learns that I'm going. I'm really excited because this therapist seems to be really into it, is published and has support from many Phd peers. trust me, I'll tell you how this goes.
