So, I heard back from H, who suggests the following:

*He keeps paying to run our house until it sells & he will arrange to list it (ideally in March)
*He suggests paying me £10k on 'settling' to 'keep me going' until the house sells.
*I take 60% of the house proceeds
*All pensions, cars and savings in our own names remain so
*We can agree on splitting 'posessions' with a walk round the house together
*He would prefer to avoid using L's, but understands if I'm not happy doing that
*He hopes we can resolve this quickly and 'move on together'
*He doesn't want to do anything to hurt me
*These days he doesn't have the energy for prolongued disputes.

This feels like a 'stick my finger in the air' and let's just agree something. It doesn't deal with the rest of our assets, mostly built up during our M, including our city flat. I think this is what he 'hopes' a D settlement may look like (favourable to him.) Is he trying to pull a fast one, or just naive? IDK - but am holding myself back right now from venting.

Very different from my L advice to only sell the house as part of separating assets and finances as though we are D'ing. I'm going to check out the process of dividing marital assets and finances and draft a reply to him for any comments.

Any thoughts in the meantime? Not sure what he means by 'move on together...'

Last edited by Toots; 03/06/15 02:57 PM.
T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus