I like your list Dave,
I came to the same conclusion about a small number of goals and settled on this list which she has agreed to:

1. ML every Friday night.

That's it.
It has worked for the last 2 weeks (well not exactly, because of various traumas last Friday was missed) but I am hopeful for this Friday. The reason I didn't try for every 3 days (which I agree would be much better) is because I think it is necessary to establish a habit first. After a few months my guess is that it won’t be such a big deal for her and I am hoping that the odd midweek approach will then be accepted. I am ‘lucky’ in that she follows Michele’s description perfectly – she has no desire until she gets some foreplay then once we get going she seems to enjoy it. The problem is getting past the thorny barricade she puts up but I am hoping that the accepted Friday night habit will remove this barrier enough that midweek love could eventually become a reality. Every three days would have been impossible for her to consider straight away – she tried to haggle me to once a month but we have tried and failed at that before. It is too long a gap to establish any kind of habit.
SD