Your post is very much like most of us HD guys feel. We are depressed because our wives are LD. And my wife thinks I suffer from depression, but I only get depressed when I think about sex, or when I see OTHER couples lovingly embrace.
You talk about the examples of marriages that actually solve this problem. If you will notice, that most all of the examples that fix this problem are recorded for couples that have MOTIVATED LD spouses that fix the problem. I have yet to see an example where the HD spouse did X, Y, and Z and then the LD spouse becomes fully recovered forever. I even asked for a success stories board on here for HD spouses that have fixed their situations with little help from the LD. There basically are no success stories. Success only appears to happen when the LD spouse puts 150% effort into it, and most are not that motivated.
Maybe you should ask your wife if it would be OK to seek sexual relief OUTSIDE the marriage so you can be a good guy and take the pressure for sex off her?
