Thanks for your kind thoughts. I would still like us to R if possible. And no, he certainly doesn't know that at this point. I've done a good job of acting 'as if' I think - easier when you have very limited interaction.
And I do have a nagging doubt - what if he wanted us to R but presumes I don't? There have been hints of it 'stars' as you say. It would be just like H to 'accept it must be over' based on what he did and try and be decent about it. So I do feel I will need to address that at some point - if only to reassure myself - but then I worry it may be anti DB and undo some good work already done.
All of this said, I think selling the house needs to happen (unless H didn't want to, but he does.) As our lives developed and changed, the location stopped being good for us. Actually where I am now is a much better location for 'us' if we are an 'us' in the future. And based on L advice selling the house goes hand in hand with dividing assets. Although I might hesitate to go down this path if H didn't seem amenable, but he does...
I guess I'll wait and see what he suggests and post for further advice....Hope a vet maybe also drops by...Thanks RDx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
