Obviously you want the financials sorted if all comes to all but deep down do you want R woth your H ?
If you do then I would continue down your path but I wouldn't make it all roses for him. At some point he needs to have an idea of how the real Toots feels. The last thing you want is for you both to feel positive about an R but no one mention it. You H did a terrible thing to you and you have posted that he know thinks you are living a new happy life. He isn't going to come back on his hands and knees ( even though he should ! )
Think hard young Toots, life isn't black and white and Toots is all important in this !
as always, please take care as I sense Toots needs to take extra care around this time. Rd
