A couple of questions. What practical consequences has your W felt as a consequence of having the A? I sense that her home life with you has remained much unchanged. Are you sharing the marital bed still, and ML?
If so, you may want to think about whether you continuing to meet her practical, financial and emotional needs is what you want going forwards. It can perpetuate the A, as reality can take longer to seep in for the WAS. They can continue to have cake and eat it...
Also, the 'hardly looking at each other' whilst she is at home worries me. And you may want to try and change the dynamic here. MWD recommends an upbeat, distantly pleasant (neighbourly), busy demeanour when around the WAS. Did you say you read the books DR/DB, without looking back?
Also, is OM currently still M and living with someone else? Sorry for the intrusive Qs - and feel free not to answer - but the more we know, the more we can help..
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
