I can certainly identify with the rewriting there. In my case she went so far as to claim that I had been subjecting her to mental cruelty and abuse for the last seven years because of this decision-making difference.
I've been seeing too what you say about "every little thing". No fault is too slight not to criticize; no positive action too good not to tear down. (She insisted that my tendency to use her extra napkins when we were out at dinner demonstrated my irredeemable selfishness.)
