I thought everything was okay....(Part 4)

[Vanilla]

MCS

For me, it is because MCS is putting W, her absence, her behaviour and the loss of his M together with thoughts of OM before MCS.

There are balances between a locked R and independence. The book I recommend explains the theories and these are tested and repeatable. The balance between H, W and the M. MCS is a spiritual thinker and by letting his higher power have the necessary thinking structure in a less emotional form he will integrate better strategies for living. The rational part of MCS can link with the loving part. I believe MCS has the will to change but appears unknowing on structure and theory. The barrier can be that of dogma which is useful in shortcut thinking but a hindrance to deeper thought.

I believe MCS has realisations which arrive from the introduction of ideas and structured thinking. MCS may need more theoretical knowledge as I believe MCS is an 'integrator' or 'digital thinker'. I have observed MCS is a spurter making great leaps with small pieces of knowledge. Like a frog hopping great distances rather than a snail moving with slow deliberation. MCS frog once active leaps great distances and then sits on a lily pad until the next great prod produces another enormous leap. I would like MCS to prod himself rather than let life events do this for him.

W is straining to be independent and free (and is addicted to EA/PA). Nothing excuses wayward behaviour in my book, there are better ways of acquiring freedom and it is as is. MCS can choose to accept and work with this rather than against it.

MCS, I would like MCS accept Ws right to be W. I observe MCS moving to control mode. MCS by concentrating on MCS and learning abount boundaries etc, then MCS can grow into MCS. MCS is a very strong man with a good spirit and is a loving dad, he can choose to let W be free to be W, even if W comes home then unless W can be free this may be temporary. W has to be free to be W even within an M and MCS has the desire to understand how this can happen and seems to be reaching for the tools that permit it.

MCS needs more knowledge not more emotion.

This is what I see and I hope that Sandi or 25 as vets can offer her opinion please. As all I can offer is the benefit of lesser experience.

That is what I see MCS

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