Quote: Originally posted by Dave36: My sense is that waiting, in my case 14 years in an autonomous marriage where we don't communicate like a "loving" couple will lead our D6 to doomed relationships. Actually, my W is a victim of a D when she was 17 which contributed to her issues.
Yes, I have considered that as well. Sad fact is that by remaining together, we may NOT be teaching our kids very good things about marriage. However...
Quote: Originally posted by Dave36: Also, I can't afford to D. There's not enough in our budget to afford a place for me to sleep except under an overpass.
There's that to consider as well. W has been a stay-at-home mom for over 20 years. If it becomes apparent that our sitch is not going to improve enough to save our marriage, I plan to give her a couple years to get a job and save some money. Meantime we'll also be paying down debt. My fervent hope is that I will NOT have to support her for the rest of my life...
Plus, by then, only one child will be under-age, so less child support for fewer years. Does that sound cold? I hope not...
