"She will have time to either miss me or time to play since she will be childless and alone for all that time."
This is still control on your part. Stop mindreading what she may or may not feel. It's not worth it.
And what have you been doing to make yourself stronger? Have you seen changes within yourself?
This post hit me hard and I did not realize how valuable this advice was until I started reading the DB book today. Even though I never thought of it that way, everything I have been doing has been scheming and trying to control.
My W has been telling me that exact thing and I never saw it that way. She told me I sit from afar and still try to control everything.
After thinking about this, I realized even when I pray I am trying to control things. I am always telling God when the time is right and when he should be trying to reach her heart.
I am going to try my best to build of this advice. I am really looking forward to this weekend my W is dropping off my D14 tomorrow at 6:30 in the morning. D and I are going to go to the Gym and then get ready to travel to NJ to visit the family for the weekend. So I will get to spend some quality time with my D14 (who is the most important person to me right now) plus visit my family who I haven't really seen much.
Me: 36 W: 36 D: 14 T: 18 (05/1997) M: 16 (05/1999) BD: 7/23/15 Separation 01/2015 D mentioned and started 02/2015 D filed 3/2015 OM confirmed 3/30/15
