This need not be the end.

[Mozza]

Barry - I'm sorry it's coming to this. It must be horrible to work against your emotions like this. I admire you for finding the courage to do it. In my case, I just asked my WAW to wait a little more and we have no deadline. You've been very clear-minded and rational about it and it will pay off a great deal for you.

You probably know that you have to stop pursuing your WAW, to stop asking her if she really, really wants that. You report doing it almost every single time. It pushes her away. It does not help you in your goal to eventually reconcile. She needs to feel that you set her free. She needs to see you at peace with the new life you begin. From the little that I know and everything we have in common in terms of personality, I know it's not easy. Our emotions are so strong and we are sure that being honest and open is the right way to do things. But they are counterproductive right now. You're adding time to your jail time, you're also missing opportunities to have the greatest impact with your apparent detachment. In a few months, your lack of pursuit won't surprise her. But right now, looking like you're truly moving on will get noticed. Find the courage to do it.