Wow Honeypot, That was a really good thing for me to hear right now. I've always been aware of how the "pressure" would negatively affect W but it's easy to forget at certain times. I give lip-service to this by telling W to relax and take her time. I assured her that I'm not expecting her to approach this with similar intensity.
Of course she SEES what I'm doing and that might add pressure, but I think that showing my interest in (me) becoming a great partner and husband is not a bad thing...it reminds her that there is a goal. Leading by example etc.
I'm trying to gauge it like I do my job and create an environment like one I would like to work in...secure but with clearly defined deadlines (boundaries).
Actually, I think business books might be good resources for relationship repair..for example, there is the idea of SMART goals...(specific, measurable, acceptable, realistic, and timely).
Sorry, this is scattererd. i've got to get back to work. I'll clarify these thoughts tonight.
