No, you're not understanding. It's realizing that you can NOT control her actions and these are HER MISTAKES TO MAKE.

it's not about having an "o don't give a fu!#" attitude, it's about seeing what she is doing and responding by just living YOUR life.

It's like watching the Jerry Springer show, you just sit back shake your head and watch the drama unfold but you are just a spectator not a participant.

Me: 35 husband:39
Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage
Twins 5 (boy/girl)
Daughter 3
Affair bomb 2/27/14
He moved in with ow 3/13/14
OW kicked him out 6/15/14
4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction