That is exactly what I worry about because I have not regained my trust in her - and that is my fault.

She sure seems sincere most of the time, she has made behavior changes that make her seem like she was before all of this, and is thanking me for helping her, telling me she loves me,

W is trickling information to me without me asking, which I should appreciate as it shows that she isn't hiding things from me. She did say some things that pushed my buttons a little last night (I internalized and didn't react). She mentioned that OM called the attacker over the weekend several times until his wife finally answered. Wife of attacker made excuses for his behavior and his medication not being quite right.

This all bothers me.

-There is still contact w/ OM (they still work together). She says this is through the person who helped her and directly with OM (convoluted?) She claims that she has told him to leave her alone.

-OM is doing things for W even if it is just confronting attacker.

-I'm losing faith that there is any decency in this place that she works.

W is very upset about all of this and tells me she just wants it all to be over. She really seems to be coming unglued sometimes and I worry about her. I told her that I worry about her. I want her to go to see someone (C) about this, but I don't know if I should mention it.

I don't know at this point whether to open up about myself to her or not. I sure want to, but not if it's going to be used against me later - this has happened before, but maybe this time it's different.


Me-45 W-44
S21, S18, D15
T-27, M-21
BD Jan 2014
PA revealed March 2014
In-house separation - April 2015
I filed - Aug 2015
She moved out Oct 2015