Just got email from W about her having dinner with a friend tonight (long-time friend from college -- not OW) and when I replied I mentioned that I'd like to meet up with some friends for dinner tomorrow night.
Her reply back was "No problem. What time do you need to leave the house?" Which is not a big deal question -- she just needs to know so she can get home from work in time... But last question was "Who all are you meeting up with?"
So how am I supposed to respond? I said "some friends" in my first email to her... I'm really just meeting up with one friend, but don't want to say it's one friend because I don't want to give her the impression that it's a date (and it is NOT a date -- really is just dinner with a friend)... I'm thinking of just saying it's a couple of friends that I used to work with who I reconnected with recently at another friend's retirement party... but not name any names (which she wouldn't know anyway)...
Background: Prior to BD & MLC, my W has known all of my friends -- at least the people that I would do things with socially -- but now I really am reconnecting with some former colleagues who have become friends over time and who are available to hang out, have dinner, etc. But W has really never met these people because I never did anything socially with them until recently.
So if I don't name any names, will my response come across as if I am playing a game with her? Do I need to name some names, mention that we worked together previously, and leave it at that?
I really need some good advice on this... what is the best way to respond so that I can keep a little mystery around it but it doesn't come across that I am playing a game or being deceitful... or is that even possible to not come across that way with an MLCer who may be suspicious of my intentions or paranoid about what I might be doing behind her back?
Me 48, Her 50 (Same-Sex Couple) 3 Children Together: 9.5 years before BD BD: Week of 10/27/14 ExW started EA w OW 9/2014 ExW married OW 12/2015
