I'm not sure if this topic, based on Dr. Laura came up because I mentioned her earlier. I know she has good advice but she lost lots of credibility with me a few years ago...that's why me and my W are both down on her. Plus, we both tend to not trust anyone who gets too popular...it's a "love of the underdog thing". Not sure why we do that. I saw Dr. Phill the other day...he makes perfect sense and is probably a very good counselor...but I would never quote him. My sense is that waiting, in my case 14 years in an autonomous marriage where we don't communicate like a "loving" couple will lead our D6 to doomed relationships. Actually, my W is a victim of a D when she was 17 which contributed to her issues. I'm not sure there is a right or wrong answer, I might tend toward sticking it out but I would be very inclined to have an affair.