Tim: I'm going to jump in with one quick comment - I kind of disagree with Dr. Laura in that I think the older ones take it much much harder than young ones. They understand, they know so much and they carry the divorce with them much longer than a child under 10 - provided of course that both parents aren't bickering and fighting and making their lives miserable after the divorce. I say this because I have two young ones - they were 2 & 5 when dad left the state for a different life. Yes I'm sure it had some sort of effect but they have done remarkably well (I take the credit on that one). You are right in that there is no good time for divorce.
