Thanks Foolish and Kat. Kat you never have to apologize with me. I am just glad for the time you spend here and sharing your thoughts.
A couple of notes - I spoke with my W earlier this week. She is putting together all the photos, scanning etc. (I texted her "You're doing the work of 12 women". Then I texted her right back and said "sorry for the sexist comment. It should be the work of 12 people." W texted right back saying "it wasn't sexist at all. Everyone knows women do all of the work."
When we spoke, W told me that she cannot afford her 3 bedroom condo, and with d17 going away to college in the fall, that she wants me to move into her condo. W will move out and find a cheap place (a few hundred bucks a month. Good luck with that.) And by doing this, s13 can go to the same school, and I would have him for the week. W is having a tough time parenting s13, and it seems to go much smoother when he is with me. I told her we can talk about this after the funeral on Saturday.
Second, in the funeral notice for MiL, the 8 daughters were listed, and all of the brothers-in-laws were listed, except for me. I am upset by this b/c I had a very close relationship with MiL. And the only reasons for leaving me off are hurtful. But this is a time for having thick skin about things like this. I will not bring it up to anyone in her family - but my Mom mentioned it when we had lunch together today. It is out of my control, and it is nothing I will dwell on.
I will take s13 and d17 out shopping later this afternoon to get some appropriate clothes for them. We'll have a quick bite, and then the Visitation is tonight. Lord give me strength.
