"Sorry for getting mad last night when you were trying to talk to me. I just feel like you are giving me very mixed signals. I hope I didn't hurt your feelings further than I already have."
Mixed signals? This is coming from a wife who want to be friends with her H while she cheats on him!
She's concerned about hurting your feelings over last night? Pffff........ What about hurting your feelings while she's with OM?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!